When Caring is Misunderstood
I recently made up my mind to stay in my lane, which basically means minding my business. This is something I thought about doing, especially when it comes to people I care about.
IĀ had a mammogram a couple of months ago. The test results were normal-Ā thank God. IĀ have been getting a mammogram since I turned forty.Ā StatisticsĀ (perĀ Google)doĀ show that regular mammogramsĀ significantly reduceĀ breast cancer mortality by up to 40%.Ā Ā
A few daysĀ after I had my mammogram,Ā IĀ was talking to Lisa, someone I care about, about gettingĀ a mammogram.Ā Her reaction to the idea of getting one was extremelyĀ hostile.Ā So much so that she cut the conversation short.Ā
She had the same response last week when we talked about the possibility of her getting a Colonoscopy,Ā especiallyĀ since thereĀ isĀ a family history.Ā IĀ didnātĀ understandĀ the hostility,Ā and I don’t understand not wanting to reduce your risk factors, but perhapsĀ itāsĀ not meant for me to understand.Ā Worry about yourself, Doreen!
IĀ doĀ realize her responseĀ to both of the conversationsĀ we had mayĀ haveĀ come fromĀ aĀ lack of medical information,Ā fear, or not feeling ready.Ā
Sometimes, when we speak from love, it lands on some folks differently than what it was meant. Sometimes caring can feel like pressure. Sometimes concern can feel like judgment. Which was never my intention.
Even though I was frustrated during those conversations, itĀ doesnātĀ mean I should stop caring.Ā But itāsĀ hard whenĀ youāreĀ coming from a place of concern,Ā andĀ itāsĀ met withĀ anger andĀ resistance. ButĀ IāmĀ learning that caringĀ doesnātĀ always get the response we expectāand sometimes, IĀ mustĀ manage my emotions just as much as IĀ want othersĀ to manage their emotions andĀ take care of themselves.Ā
As I end this blog,Ā IĀ amĀ realizingĀ the bestĀ thingĀ IĀ can doĀ going forwardĀ is plant seedsāand trustĀ that those seedsĀ I plant will grow inĀ theirĀ own time.Ā
Until the next Blog, Be Blessed

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